In University there is so much time to discover and enlighten yourself. You meet so many different people, you can do so many new things and its the best time to discover your true self.
I think spending time by yourself in your room, truly lets you get to know yourself honestly. You can use this time to discover what music you like, you discover your fashion even more if you like clubbing, what you are like living with other people, you develop your personality, you discover the gym, sports teams if you have never been to one before, you can even explore yourself sexually, see what you like without judgement.
Sometimes life can be a little foggy, that’s when you need to step back and re-evaluate what you truly need and want. And sometimes this fogginess can lead to a clearer, more pristine version of you.
You meet people who will get you and will help you develop. When you go to school in your own village, town etc yes you meet life long friends, but sometimes the people who will make an impact are from all over. You discover and learn about so many different things, you are opened up to new cultures, races and if you go into University with an open-mind it will elevate your already great personality.
You meet yourself. If you learn that you don’t like being by yourself, and your mental health takes a downturn, you can talk to somebody who can help.
University is a judgment-free zone, and if you feel it isn’t one then make it one. Sometimes our home towns can breed toxic and harmful thoughts, highschool we were always told that girls were slags and these views come with us and there are always women on women hate. I learnt that this is a form of the patriarchy, and it took a while for me to get rid of these “views” and stop using the terms ‘slag’, ‘slut’ and ‘whore’ as a means to degrade and hurt women. Going to uni, I think helped me develop my moral compass. In Uni girls, we would always talk about our body count, sexual experiences, what we like and dislike, and there would always be, ‘this might be slaggy’, ‘I am a slag’, we would always degrade ourselves, judge ourselves and it took all of us to realise that we are not and to get rid of years of these thoughts. And I am glad I have met all the girls I have because if I didn’t I wouldn’t have learnt about feminism and I wouldn’t be the person I am today.
The point I am making is that, when you go to Uni, you don’t just learn about your degree, you learn about life, politics, people, the world, history and my advice? Be open to new learning opportunities.
I am not saying that this is the only way to learn about yourself because everybody has their own path to discovering themselves, the point is you should put yourself out there.
Comment down below some of lessons you have learnt.