#15 – Booze, booze and more booze

I know what you are thinking, University life isn’t all about booze. You are right, but also wrong. A big part of Uni culture is drinking excessively, nights out, a pint after a hard lecture and being social.

If you are not a big drinker, then tell the people your limits and that you just want to remain sober.  You don’t have to drink, but there are a lot of people, I know I did, that go out every week, and they are drinking, if you don’t want to be a part of that scene, I suggest finding a group of people that don’t drink, or find people you enjoy spending time with and that you trust to respect your values.

Going on nights out will give you amazing, spectacular but also embarrassing memories, but these are the moments you bond with people, you reminisce about the time your friend went up to someone and shared their jacket, so they both danced like fools, and it was funny, you remember someone being so drunk you had to carry them home.

You learn to go on the next day with a hangover, you learn your limits, you learn how to deal with your embarrassing drunk self. Some awful things happen when people drink, I have broken my wrist, well sprained it I think, but it hurt like a bitch. But you learn how to become an adult and accept the responsibility for your actions.

There will be really hard days where you just want to sit in the pub, and have a pint with your friends, talk shit and just chill. Pubs are an excellent way to meet new people and be more social.

One thing I would say is to be wary of alcohol, as much as I love it, it is a crutch. Know your limits, be out with people you trust, and always drink water when you come in from a night out. But apart from that, enjoy. Enjoy the painful headache the next day, some of your best stories will be from you and people being drunk. You never know you might meet your soulmate out drinking.

You can discover a lot more at Uni, and DRINK RESPONSIBLY when you have drunk an excessive amount it can impair you the next day, or next few days in my case, so just be careful and have fun!

KatyNella xoxo

#14 – Why this is the right time for discovering yourself

In University there is so much time to discover and enlighten yourself. You meet so many different people, you can do so many new things and its the best time to discover your true self.

I think spending time by yourself in your room, truly lets you get to know yourself honestly. You can use this time to discover what music you like, you discover your fashion even more if you like clubbing, what you are like living with other people, you develop your personality, you discover the gym, sports teams if you have never been to one before, you can even explore yourself sexually, see what you like without judgement.

Sometimes life can be a little foggy, that’s when you need to step back and re-evaluate what you truly need and want. And sometimes this fogginess can lead to a clearer, more pristine version of you.

You meet people who will get you and will help you develop. When you go to school in your own village, town etc yes you meet life long friends, but sometimes the people who will make an impact are from all over. You discover and learn about so many different things, you are opened up to new cultures, races and if you go into University with an open-mind it will elevate your already great personality.

You meet yourself. If you learn that you don’t like being by yourself, and your mental health takes a downturn, you can talk to somebody who can help.

University is a judgment-free zone, and if you feel it isn’t one then make it one. Sometimes our home towns can breed toxic and harmful thoughts, highschool we were always told that girls were slags and these views come with us and there are always women on women hate. I learnt that this is a form of the patriarchy, and it took a while for me to get rid of these “views” and stop using the terms ‘slag’, ‘slut’ and ‘whore’ as a means to degrade and hurt women. Going to uni, I think helped me develop my moral compass. In Uni girls, we would always talk about our body count, sexual experiences, what we like and dislike, and there would always be, ‘this might be slaggy’, ‘I am a slag’, we would always degrade ourselves, judge ourselves and it took all of us to realise that we are not and to get rid of years of these thoughts.  And I am glad I have met all the girls I have because if I didn’t I wouldn’t have learnt about feminism and I wouldn’t be the person I am today.

The point I am making is that, when you go to Uni, you don’t just learn about your degree, you learn about life, politics, people, the world, history and my advice? Be open to new learning opportunities.

I am not saying that this is the only way to learn about yourself because everybody has their own path to discovering themselves, the point is you should put yourself out there.

Comment down below some of lessons you have learnt.

KatyNella xoxo