We’ve all had them days where we feel like doing nothing, that not getting out of bed nothing, and when we do skip the day, we feel guilty and annoyed at our selves. I am telling you now, that we shouldn’t feel this way.
Whether or not you’re missing the lecture because you’re hungover as fuck, still drunk, have the most painful period pains to date, you haven’t done the reading, you didn’t sleep the night before, your mental state isn’t as great as it was, you’re ill or you just feel like pure shit. We sometimes all need a break, a rest, a moment to chill.
Obviously you can’t skip every lecture or you will fail, but what I am saying is that burnout is real, and the world can catch up on us sometimes.
There were days in uni I missed the lectures because I was hungover, I went in the next day and my lecturer was disappointed and I have never felt more guilty and upset with myself, but I must admit having 10 tequila shots and a variety of doubles gave us the karma the next day.
But I missed some because it was a necessity. TMI but the first day of my period, gives me so much pain I can’t even describe. I can’t walk, I can’t sit and it’s fucking awful. I missed the first lecture of the day most months on the day if there was a lecture. I would take a few paracetamols and I would be able to function for the rest of the day.
The fact that I couldn’t go in annoyed me, as I needed and wanted to attend the lecture. But if I did go, I would be thinking about the pain, the fact that I might bleed through my leggings, “why didn’t I bring my hot water bottle?”. I would not be concentrating and those first few hours in the morning I needed at home to ease the pain and chill before the rest of the day, where my body would have been walking and it would have got so tired. Yes I missed a lecture, but my friends got me the notes, I went to the library and I revised it.
I have friends who missed countless lectures and when they came in they didn’t have a clue on what was going on. One teacher didn’t know that “Jane” was even in his class cause she never showed up, but this was cause they didn’t want to do it anymore, but the point is you have to find balance.
Don’t skip lectures, but if you have to, don’t feel guilty. Sometimes we need that rest day, sometimes you will hate a lecturer and their classes, so maybe skip one then attend the next two then skip one. If you don’t compromise with yourself, there would have been no point in going to uni.
And yes I know some of you right now might be thinking “but we have weekends to rest and chill” NO KAREN, my friends worked part-time jobs at the weekend so they could finance themselves. They would be in uni 3/4 days a week then working 3. We never decide when our brain, mind and soul needs to breathe.
Sometimes I would just wake up and feel like shit, I just felt down and sad for no reason. I wouldn’t want to go in cause I would have to do work when I am not in the right frame of mind and it’s easy to say just get on with it, but it’s easier to watch Netflix and cry and then feel better.
We need a reboot, and that might be when you have a lecture, but c’mon you are doing a lot of work, multiple essays, readings, notes and all whilst trying to balance work, friends, self-care, it’s easy to get wrapped up in everything and feel like you’re suffocating.
So once in a while just do fuck all, and if you miss a lecture then it can get fucked.
Stick that face mask on, grab your self a cuppa and binge-watch Brooklyn Nine-Nine for the 70596th time.
Please don’t miss the important ones, but the ones where you can get your friends to get you the notes, and you can read them in your time when at the library or a cafe, and don’t feel guilty when you do, just hit reset, reboot and you will be ready to tackle the next day.
Your health comes first. You come first – Remember that.