University is very scary.
One moment you are at home, you have your family and friends, security and the next minute you are in a completely different place.
You have been plucked from a small village and now you have been thrown into a city thats 10 times as big as home.
You are immediately pushed out for your comfort zone. But I find that whenever you are pushed then that becomes your new comfort zone.
It is a great thing to make your comfort zone bigger. This means you grow as a person, and when you are 18 or even 34, starting a new chapter of your life, it is scary. It is scary to see how you will/might change, or if you will lose friends or gain them.
It is a very daunting chapter, but this is a chapter that everyone MUST read. We must get pushed out of our comfort zone, to become a better us.
When I first moved to Preston, into my new student flat, where I would live for the next 9 months, I was nervous. My mum and sister left, after having helped me unpack and I just sat on the chair, looking out of my window, around my room, just taking it in that this is my life now.
I will have to make friends, I will have to clean my room, do my laundry, do a weekly shop so I can eat, manage my money, do my work. We are pushed into the deep end into literal adulthood.
That first night it was freshers. The flat decided to go out, after only knowing each other 5 hours. We went to one of the clubs, into a city where I didn’t know where I was, I didn’t know the taxi numbers, how far it would be to walk. It was a guessing game and a trust game. You are put into a position where you have to trust people you have only known for a few hours.
Eventually you trust these people, you get along with these people, you realise how easy it is to ‘survive’ essentially. You get to grips with how long it takes to walk to the uni buildings, town, you get to know the shortcuts and it becomes easier to immerse yourself into these new surroundings as home.
It changes you, this makes you adaptable, independent and these skills, what this experience will help you do is live in the future. If you have a job that requires you to move to a new place or country, you can say you have done this before and this gives you the self-belief that you can do what you want, you can achieve massive things. I think this is the boost that some people need to gain that self confidence that they lack.
Being pushed out of your comfort zone is probably one of the best things that can happen to you. When we stay inside our little bubble, we trap ourselves, we miss out on opportunities that could help define us, that could help us to become a better us. It’s poisonous, negative thinking that keeps us there. When we edge out of our comfort zone, even a little, that pushes the edge and our bubble becomes a little bigger.
This allows more air, light and positive thoughts in this bubble and anything that helps us think positive about ourselves is worth doing.
We have become a society that would rather trap and poison people with their own negative thoughts rather than helping each other just burst this negative bubble, or help them make it bigger so they don’t suffocate.
If you are scared to go to university, or do something that is so out of your comfort zone, just relax, breathe and know you can do this.
Kimmy Fasani, professional snowboarder, said once in a Try Guy video that;
“Adventure starts at the end of your comfort zone.”
This quote has stuck with me as it is a brilliant quote to incorporate into your life.
Katy Nells xoxo